SPEAKING LIFE

Hello people, this post is kind of  random but i thought of sharing this with you. first of all, i love  you tube, its vast and i get to learn a lot of stuff from it. i have subscribed to a lot of  you tube channels and one of my favorite subscribed channels is by Patricia Bright, you could look it up and subscribe too.  i am just from watching this particular post and it's awesome and honestly, rejuvenating for me, here's the link, am sure you'll like it. one more thing, the post says its girl talk but in my opinion i feel like it works for everybody...enjoy:-) :-)

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YUdIPcDg1AE

FOR THE SAKE OF OUR WELL BEING,

Hi you all, its been quite a while...i know...i know:-) but am back. I have been feeling quiet guilty for noting posting anything but i realised that there is no need of posting an article just for the sake of doing so, it's better when i do so while being sincere and at the same time feeling that what i am posting has also ministered into my life as well as other people. I have been busy with school work and it's been crazy but am glad that the semester is over. 

Sometime back i was having lunch with a friend together with an acquaintance. At some point one of them started complaining of a friend who always calls or checks in only when she needs money or wants a treat. He feels drained when she's around and the friendship only favours one side. Am sure so many people have experienced this at one point in there lives where you have this buddy and you'd rather avoid than tell them the truth. To be honest, it takes a lot of strength and boldness to do that.

Until people learn to be a little bit "selfish" about this whole friendship idea, we'll always suffer. we need to be true to our selves as well as other people. we need to gather enough strength to shed off these people who don't add any value into our lives. We cant please everyone around us. 
We need to take this as our own initiative, make up our mind that this kind of friendship has to come to an end. Yet again, its one thing to make up our mind and another thing to put the decision into action. 

For the sake of our  well being, lets shed off what we don't need and surround ourselves with people who are worth our time and company.

HONESTLY, I HAVE NO TITLE FOR THIS:-0:-0 BUT I BELIEVE THAT THIS IS IMPORTANT:-):-)

I have been watching a lot of YouTube channels of late,  or probably what i do the whole day when am not in school....confessions, confessions. But i don't have any regrets. I love it.
When the month of June was coming to an end, I was like..hmm!  what do i write? And honestly i haven't been thinking of what article to write for this end month of June. These are the days when school work weighs me down but I know at the back of my mind that , that is not a reason. My audience is still waiting.
So as usual, as i was surfing today and decided to stop by one of the you tube channels that i have subscribed to, i came across this particular video that i really like and i felt that i really connect. I just compelled to share this. Its really awesome and i would really recommend it to anyone out there. Just check it out and enjoy.:-):-)

IN HONOR OF MY "ME TIME"

I have awesome friends. They are the people I hung around, I call them to say hi when I actually have nothing to say, we  offer each other shoulders to cry on when we are so low, we  celebrate each others  triumphs. That's what friends are for  or at least what friends should be like. We are each others business, we  ensure that we are always on toes in all the important matters that concern us. At the same time we still do all the unimportant matters like catch up for lunch and take selfies  just to ensure that we enjoy and remember every moment we spent together. They play a major role in my life because they influence my way of life and my opinions in a great way.

Even though I have this super-awesome friends, I have grown to understand myself, and who I am. To still ensure that my identity is not derived from the people I spend my time with. To still uphold my personality. I cherish the time I spend with my friends but I still  honor what I call my "me time." My friends have a lot of impact in the choices I make. I ask them for their opinion but even so the life that I live is mine, and I  can  only live it once.  I need that special time to spend it just by myself to think through my life. To do some self-analyzing.

The time I spend by myself fortifies  me, my inner being. From my inner being is where self-love, self-confidence, self-compassion and self-pride comes from.This is what keeps my mind sober when life huddles face me. The   time when my super-awesome friends are no longer so awesome, when reality dawns on me that am just alone.
This is the time I get to reflect and see what face of life I am from, which one I am in apparently and where I visualize to be in the future. If I see that I have improved, It encourages me but at the same time not dwell to much in my success. This reminds me that I am in a race of my own. I am not competing with anyone but myself, with my past.

My "me time" reminds me that I can only live once, I need to do what I love doing, that my gifts, talents and hobbies are my passion. I cannot afford to make myself unhappy, or even if I do, its not the end of life. I should forgive myself and continue with this self-race. It reminds me that I need to live life with a light heart. It tells me that for me to cruise higher I need to be one big grudge hater. I cannot afford to carry people in my heart, My life is way too special to spare my time to think of those who want to hurt me.

Most of all, my special "me time" always reminds me that I can only live a life of one audience. I can only win this race by being me and no one else. No one can be me and so I will not stoop so low by becoming someone else's shadow.
This is why I always honor the time I spend by myself.

IT ALL DEPENDS ON YOU.

Some time back I read someone's article on the Standard newspaper that usually comes on Sunday. I  cannot really  remember who was the writer but I have always remembered the moral of the story to this day.

The article was basically talking about two women; a master and a servant. Both of them have spouses and children. I Hate the word servant I would rather use a  housekeeper. So this rich lady has anything and everything that can be described as material wealth. Money is not a problem to her family. Her housekeeper does her job perfectly well and leaves her master's house in the evening back to her family after she has fixed their dinner. Her husband who is a watchman comes and picks her up with his only transport; a black bicycle. She sits at the back and they happily go home to share a one plate meal with her husband.

Back to the rich lady, the children come back home, serve their meal from the dinning table which was perfectly set by the housekeeper and head to their rooms leaving their mother at the table. she sits their looking at the clock on the wall while waiting for her husband. Without realizing it, she doses off and by the time she wakes up, it is 4am and still no signs of her husband.
That is life for her. Her family's lifestyle.
I don't know if this only happens to me but there are times that I can unconsciously think a lot until I find myself getting sad and I just loose this zeal for life. It may sound crazy but yap! it just happens to me.

Remembering this story helped me give myself this positive self-talk. Happiness. It all depends on me. I can choose to be happy regardless of my circumstances. Am sure a lot of people have this thought in their mind that once they achieve their goals that's when they are going to be happy. A student may say "once I graduate and get my degree, I'll be happy" Another person may say "once I get married, I'll be happy." In short, their happiness depends on their future. What if that's you and it ends up that you never actually get to be happy in your entire life?

The little good things that we do to ourselves, the little treats that we give to ourselves, the time that we spend with  special people in our lives is what brings happiness and joy into our lives but we never really see it as happiness because we have this illusion that happiness is something outside of this world. Well, I challenge you to do what you feel in your heart makes you genuinely smile. I am sure you know what that is.
Be happy regardless of your circumstances, it all depends on you.

DON'T BE TOO HARD ON YOUR SELF...JUST YET,

Well.... this is not something that I sat down and thought about.. really but I saw a poster in a certain site in the Internet and it got me thinking. Why am I always too hard on myself?
 I have been trying to ponder on a phrase that I friend used  recently  while talking to me. This is what she said 'life is not that serious, relax!' Is that really true? I don't know. The reason why am saying this is because I am one person who is always  serious with anything and  everything.
But that is just besides my point.
 When we are all mind-stiffen and we can't allow some things to take their coarse, things that are beyond strength we tend to feel like we have failed but we do not realize that actually its not that we failed, we just learn another way of how not to do what we wanted to do.
 we should learn to look at the glass when its half full and not half empty.
 Here's the poster,

A RANDOM THOUGHT.............BUT I MEAN IT.

Hey people, I feel like its been decades before i actually blogged. Not that I do not love doing it but for a certain period of time I just didn't have the psych to do this. Yet at the back of my mind I know that I will forever remain to be a blogger. At least I know its what I can do best  in this world, so far. I strongly believe in what I write, they are just my thoughts. I believe in them. I would like to have many viewers for my blog, and not only that but at least make an impact in someones life even if its just ten people.
But I also realised that i have to create time to blog, to no just create time but be committed in it. This whole time I have been procrastinating and hoping that one day I will  wake up with all the zeal in the world and just post as much as I can and the next time I check out my blogger dashboard I will probably be having  a thousand viewers and five hundred followers. well, too bad life is not like that. Nothing comes on a silver platter.
This was part of my new year's resolution. To be committed to what I love, what I hold  dear to my heart. At least i know if there is something that will always give fulfilment, then it should be this. Its what gives me that sense of fulfilment and liberation, knowing that this is I work hard for.
What's my point? We all  have something we want to achieve.... what we hope for. It may be part of our nature or something that needs to be natured...but whatever the case, we have to spare ample time to work on it otherwise our dreams won't bare fruit's.
The perfect word is commitment.