SPEAKING LIFE

Hello people, this post is kind of  random but i thought of sharing this with you. first of all, i love  you tube, its vast and i get to learn a lot of stuff from it. i have subscribed to a lot of  you tube channels and one of my favorite subscribed channels is by Patricia Bright, you could look it up and subscribe too.  i am just from watching this particular post and it's awesome and honestly, rejuvenating for me, here's the link, am sure you'll like it. one more thing, the post says its girl talk but in my opinion i feel like it works for everybody...enjoy:-) :-)

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YUdIPcDg1AE

FOR THE SAKE OF OUR WELL BEING,

Hi you all, its been quite a while...i know...i know:-) but am back. I have been feeling quiet guilty for noting posting anything but i realised that there is no need of posting an article just for the sake of doing so, it's better when i do so while being sincere and at the same time feeling that what i am posting has also ministered into my life as well as other people. I have been busy with school work and it's been crazy but am glad that the semester is over. 

Sometime back i was having lunch with a friend together with an acquaintance. At some point one of them started complaining of a friend who always calls or checks in only when she needs money or wants a treat. He feels drained when she's around and the friendship only favours one side. Am sure so many people have experienced this at one point in there lives where you have this buddy and you'd rather avoid than tell them the truth. To be honest, it takes a lot of strength and boldness to do that.

Until people learn to be a little bit "selfish" about this whole friendship idea, we'll always suffer. we need to be true to our selves as well as other people. we need to gather enough strength to shed off these people who don't add any value into our lives. We cant please everyone around us. 
We need to take this as our own initiative, make up our mind that this kind of friendship has to come to an end. Yet again, its one thing to make up our mind and another thing to put the decision into action. 

For the sake of our  well being, lets shed off what we don't need and surround ourselves with people who are worth our time and company.

HONESTLY, I HAVE NO TITLE FOR THIS:-0:-0 BUT I BELIEVE THAT THIS IS IMPORTANT:-):-)

I have been watching a lot of YouTube channels of late,  or probably what i do the whole day when am not in school....confessions, confessions. But i don't have any regrets. I love it.
When the month of June was coming to an end, I was like..hmm!  what do i write? And honestly i haven't been thinking of what article to write for this end month of June. These are the days when school work weighs me down but I know at the back of my mind that , that is not a reason. My audience is still waiting.
So as usual, as i was surfing today and decided to stop by one of the you tube channels that i have subscribed to, i came across this particular video that i really like and i felt that i really connect. I just compelled to share this. Its really awesome and i would really recommend it to anyone out there. Just check it out and enjoy.:-):-)

IN HONOR OF MY "ME TIME"

I have awesome friends. They are the people I hung around, I call them to say hi when I actually have nothing to say, we  offer each other shoulders to cry on when we are so low, we  celebrate each others  triumphs. That's what friends are for  or at least what friends should be like. We are each others business, we  ensure that we are always on toes in all the important matters that concern us. At the same time we still do all the unimportant matters like catch up for lunch and take selfies  just to ensure that we enjoy and remember every moment we spent together. They play a major role in my life because they influence my way of life and my opinions in a great way.

Even though I have this super-awesome friends, I have grown to understand myself, and who I am. To still ensure that my identity is not derived from the people I spend my time with. To still uphold my personality. I cherish the time I spend with my friends but I still  honor what I call my "me time." My friends have a lot of impact in the choices I make. I ask them for their opinion but even so the life that I live is mine, and I  can  only live it once.  I need that special time to spend it just by myself to think through my life. To do some self-analyzing.

The time I spend by myself fortifies  me, my inner being. From my inner being is where self-love, self-confidence, self-compassion and self-pride comes from.This is what keeps my mind sober when life huddles face me. The   time when my super-awesome friends are no longer so awesome, when reality dawns on me that am just alone.
This is the time I get to reflect and see what face of life I am from, which one I am in apparently and where I visualize to be in the future. If I see that I have improved, It encourages me but at the same time not dwell to much in my success. This reminds me that I am in a race of my own. I am not competing with anyone but myself, with my past.

My "me time" reminds me that I can only live once, I need to do what I love doing, that my gifts, talents and hobbies are my passion. I cannot afford to make myself unhappy, or even if I do, its not the end of life. I should forgive myself and continue with this self-race. It reminds me that I need to live life with a light heart. It tells me that for me to cruise higher I need to be one big grudge hater. I cannot afford to carry people in my heart, My life is way too special to spare my time to think of those who want to hurt me.

Most of all, my special "me time" always reminds me that I can only live a life of one audience. I can only win this race by being me and no one else. No one can be me and so I will not stoop so low by becoming someone else's shadow.
This is why I always honor the time I spend by myself.

IT ALL DEPENDS ON YOU.

Some time back I read someone's article on the Standard newspaper that usually comes on Sunday. I  cannot really  remember who was the writer but I have always remembered the moral of the story to this day.

The article was basically talking about two women; a master and a servant. Both of them have spouses and children. I Hate the word servant I would rather use a  housekeeper. So this rich lady has anything and everything that can be described as material wealth. Money is not a problem to her family. Her housekeeper does her job perfectly well and leaves her master's house in the evening back to her family after she has fixed their dinner. Her husband who is a watchman comes and picks her up with his only transport; a black bicycle. She sits at the back and they happily go home to share a one plate meal with her husband.

Back to the rich lady, the children come back home, serve their meal from the dinning table which was perfectly set by the housekeeper and head to their rooms leaving their mother at the table. she sits their looking at the clock on the wall while waiting for her husband. Without realizing it, she doses off and by the time she wakes up, it is 4am and still no signs of her husband.
That is life for her. Her family's lifestyle.
I don't know if this only happens to me but there are times that I can unconsciously think a lot until I find myself getting sad and I just loose this zeal for life. It may sound crazy but yap! it just happens to me.

Remembering this story helped me give myself this positive self-talk. Happiness. It all depends on me. I can choose to be happy regardless of my circumstances. Am sure a lot of people have this thought in their mind that once they achieve their goals that's when they are going to be happy. A student may say "once I graduate and get my degree, I'll be happy" Another person may say "once I get married, I'll be happy." In short, their happiness depends on their future. What if that's you and it ends up that you never actually get to be happy in your entire life?

The little good things that we do to ourselves, the little treats that we give to ourselves, the time that we spend with  special people in our lives is what brings happiness and joy into our lives but we never really see it as happiness because we have this illusion that happiness is something outside of this world. Well, I challenge you to do what you feel in your heart makes you genuinely smile. I am sure you know what that is.
Be happy regardless of your circumstances, it all depends on you.

DON'T BE TOO HARD ON YOUR SELF...JUST YET,

Well.... this is not something that I sat down and thought about.. really but I saw a poster in a certain site in the Internet and it got me thinking. Why am I always too hard on myself?
 I have been trying to ponder on a phrase that I friend used  recently  while talking to me. This is what she said 'life is not that serious, relax!' Is that really true? I don't know. The reason why am saying this is because I am one person who is always  serious with anything and  everything.
But that is just besides my point.
 When we are all mind-stiffen and we can't allow some things to take their coarse, things that are beyond strength we tend to feel like we have failed but we do not realize that actually its not that we failed, we just learn another way of how not to do what we wanted to do.
 we should learn to look at the glass when its half full and not half empty.
 Here's the poster,

A RANDOM THOUGHT.............BUT I MEAN IT.

Hey people, I feel like its been decades before i actually blogged. Not that I do not love doing it but for a certain period of time I just didn't have the psych to do this. Yet at the back of my mind I know that I will forever remain to be a blogger. At least I know its what I can do best  in this world, so far. I strongly believe in what I write, they are just my thoughts. I believe in them. I would like to have many viewers for my blog, and not only that but at least make an impact in someones life even if its just ten people.
But I also realised that i have to create time to blog, to no just create time but be committed in it. This whole time I have been procrastinating and hoping that one day I will  wake up with all the zeal in the world and just post as much as I can and the next time I check out my blogger dashboard I will probably be having  a thousand viewers and five hundred followers. well, too bad life is not like that. Nothing comes on a silver platter.
This was part of my new year's resolution. To be committed to what I love, what I hold  dear to my heart. At least i know if there is something that will always give fulfilment, then it should be this. Its what gives me that sense of fulfilment and liberation, knowing that this is I work hard for.
What's my point? We all  have something we want to achieve.... what we hope for. It may be part of our nature or something that needs to be natured...but whatever the case, we have to spare ample time to work on it otherwise our dreams won't bare fruit's.
The perfect word is commitment.

MIND INVESTMENT

Our minds do a daily job of thinking, and our thinking is parallel to what we believe in; our principles. Once our principles have a strong foundation then it means that we are strong because  we actually own them and naturally becomes part of us. They are what actually inculcates a moral fibre in us when  we are faced with compromising situations. They are what  help us  keep a sane mind for a lifetime.Even so,this principles do not just come on a silver platter, they need some major investment for the end result to be firm authentic  and naturally owned.
If one fills the mind with with the right content; watching the right scenes, the mind processes all this and the end product is amazing.
 Just the same way  a new house needs renovation time after time  for it to maintain its good looks so is it for our beliefs. Our very own-invested  principles  need  frequent maintenance  for them to service us.
Birds of  a feather flock together. One needs to keep friends who are like-minded. Friends who will add value to their life and not draw them back.
Moreover, one needs a daily dosage of self-conversation. Being the first person to encourage yourself before anyone else does so.
For anyone to be a  person of great repute  and of cause not just doing  anything to get approved by the world  but doing the right thing regardless of weather the majority is backing you up or not.
So the only way to this is by having positively-invested principles that will guide our minds.
In a  nutshell let us guard our minds,our most important investment.

HAVE A MIND OF YOUR OWN.

Life is always full of situations where we have  to make choices. Life in itself is a choice because one can choose either to live or become suicidal. If we make the right choices then the outcome will be positive. The aftermath of the alternative will definitely be negative.Not making a choice about any situation is still a negative choice. What I mean by this is, if  we always wait for others to to make choices for us. Always flippant  about everything. Whenever  asked for ones personal opinion on anything the response will always be "you decide'', '' I don't care " or " either way is fine with me'' even on important  matters.These are the lazy brains; always bent too quickly to listen and go for other people's opinions unable to stand on their own. They flow in too many directions.
Such people normally are not confident  of themselves. They are never assets in the society because they cannot invest in any kind of relationship; talk about business to friendship or any other kind of a relationship.
The  remedy to this whole idea boils down to  confidence. To become a self-assertive and self-motivated person, one has to be self-esteemed which brings about the idea of confidence. Self-esteem is brought about by self-love; Ones own happiness in thoughts and feelings being totally important.

SO AMAZING,SO UNFAILING.

Everyone desires to be loved, and not just loved but genuinely loved. This is a place where we could all share our joys of life and find solace when our hearts are just too heavy to bare. Just when our wheel of life has stiffen then this authentic love could keep it rolling. Just when we feel like like we need this amazing motivation to cruise higher to our vision and destiny, to achieve to the zenith of our  strength then that's where we can think  of running  to. Many times or at all times we never want to doubt this love that one day it may fail us. We want to be optimistic, to look at the brighter side of love. When the alternative happens, our porcelain heart breaks into pieces that we never see it getting mended and having to believe in love again. All types of love have, are and will always fail us at one point in our lives. Even after the heart breaks we  find ourselves somehow desperately yearning to be loved again or we find  ourselves rejecting love and hating it, vowing never to love again....we give up on love in the fear that we might get hurt again.
At this point we reject even the one true love that has always been there all along and we have been taking it for grunted. Love that has loved despite our faults  and imperfectness. Love that still loves even when we hurt this love. Love that looks straight into your eyes and genuinely says,'' you are beautiful and I love you'' even when the whole world says that you have not attained its standards of it actually it defines as beauty. Still, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.  Just when the whole world has failed us  that is when we actually remember that God's love has passed the test of time.
It's a kind of love that has always been taken for granted, dismissed just by a wave of the hand as if we actually deserve it but in real sense we do not. God is love. He loves us with our imperfectness,  in our sinful nature. I know it sound rather cliche because this is one thing that has been said over and over again, from generation to generation but this is just one truth that will stand forever.  If we just sat back and  thought of how time after time we've done that which does not please Him but somehow we've  not faced the real repercussions of our actions then we would not assume His amazing love.
His love is so amazing that nothing can separate us from Him. It's so unfailing we just can't live without it, it takes us through all faces of life.
So amazing, so unfailing

Setting Our Selves Free.

THE FUTURE IS NOW

'We are not prisoners  of our past, but pioneers of our future.' Every time i think about this phrase, it makes me think, generally about life. Most of the times when we think about our past and we get to realise that the thoughts are unpleasant we tend to make our minds forget about the past. There and then we start  thinking of our present times. We also realise that it may also not be exactly be what we would want it to be   like because the difference between the past and the present is utterly minute.
All this unpleasant thought draw us back into our own corners, the corners which according to us is quite comfortable. This is the place I refer to as our comfort zones where at least our minds will not have to face the truth .There are times we even dread talking to someone about our problems in the fear that the next minute we might be the laughing stock of the society. We  sit back in our comfort zones and drown ourselves in self-pity. Worse we even fear talking to our own creator because according to us  He is the first person that we blame our problems on.
Its like running a race but in the process we fall down in a ditch. We look at our counterparts and see them soldering on. We get to compare ourselves to them and this greatly discourages us . We then choose to stay inside the ditch. We think it's much better  being inside there  than stand up and letting the whole world see us standing up from the ditch and letting them know that at one point in our lives we fell down.
Our own perception about  our own life situations does not make us realise  that failures at one point in our lives offer lessons on what failed to work.
Why can't we choose to change our attitude? Why can't we choose to be pertinacious? When a hurdle comes on our way to victory we can choose to face it head-on. Even if it hurts,we should not shun crying, get a good cry, embrace resilience and bounce back to life then solder on. After all, can't we realise  that  this hurdles  inculcate the virtue  of endurance  in our lives? No one is ever considered a victor until he goes through the battle field. There after we can be assured of a better future.
'We are not prisoner of the past but pioneers of the future'
But yet again, we have to realise that our future is now. Our past is gone and our future is beginning.Not unless we choose to change our mindset about our lives and do something about them, we will still dwell  inside our comfort zones. Being in the comfort zones means  shrinking ourselves and our potentials. Not unless we apply a positive force on them they will always remain untapped.
The ball is in your court, choose to dribble it or step on it and fold your hands.

LIVING OUR DREAMS

we all dream, dreaming while hoping that one day our dreams would come true. You could probably be sitting on a chair in a simple room but you are already visiting your dream country and that is just be one of your wildest dream. Your dream could probably be hoping to be one of the most reputable designers in the world and signing contracts with great fashion designers like Victoria secrets and house of Dereon.
But interestingly enough, did you just notice that so long as you are still sitting on that chair and still dreaming, those dreams are nothing but mere fantasies that come and go with the wind?
So long as we keep day dreaming and absolutely do nothing about them then all those wishes can be equated to vanity.
It's so amazing how a great percentage of the world  is good at planning but the remaining percentage are the one who actually take the initiative to  execute the plan. When the year is coming to an end, it is saddening to realise that most people cannot account for that year in regard to their former new year's resolution.
If you could take a close look at all the estimable people who who have succeeded in life, this people they are in one way or the other self-motivated people whose dreams are passion driven. Dreams that are not just wishes but dreams that live on. They are alive because some efforts were applied on their dreams. These are dreams that are no where close to fantasies but dreams with visible fruits.
In one way or the other we all have the potential to make it in life but the difference is that the larger percentage of the world is affected by some degree of self-doubt. and as much this may tend to  be one debatable in the society, i believe that though academics have a role in anyone's success, it is more of the self-confidence that truly plays the bigger role.  Passion is what cultivates this amazing factor; chutzpah audacity, guts, whatever you may choose to brand it.
Prosperity is for the minds that not only dream big but those who implement on those dreams. I ts for those who apply some  force to their potential, for those who are self-driven and focus  not on their past failures but look into their future, identify successful opportunities and ride on them to their brighter side of life.

THE CHILD IN ME

I like the way kids look up to their fathers as superheros. Their perception of their fathers is so interesting, they believe their fathers can overcome all the hiccups of life.
But as they continue to grow and encounter different faces of life, their minds open up and they realise  that after all their fathers are just human beings who at times can encounter situations beyond their own strength.
 probably everyone wants their stronger side of who they are to always  be on toes. i also realised  that  that is how i am. and when a challenge comes my way i find that i expect so much from myself. i become too hard on myself. its like i always expect to be perfect in whatever i do. if that does not happen then i get frustrated. there are times i want to try something new but the fear if not succeeding draws me back. when i feel like the this world expects so much from me but i give back what is not of it's standards then i feel like a failure. there are also times that i have felt so uncertain of my future even as the people surrounding me say that i have a brighter future ahead of me. not even encouragement from myself helps at times.
The more reason why we are humans. Even as i strive to be perfect, to be the person of good reputation, to feel like i have that great sense of direction, as sense that is totally authentic....... the child in me that has always been,is still and will always be fragile is permanently residing in me.Only God can father this child in each and everyone of us.
Just  when we feel all worn out, our father can instill this  great reservoir of strength in us when we ask Him to. Pretending to be all powerful and all knowing as if we can actually handle the intricacies of this world by ourselves is nothing but a mirage and self-delusion
Lets accept the children we are in the inside of us and that with our own strength we ultimately cannot make it in life.

POWERFUL PEOPLE INDEED!

We live in a contemporary world where those who have this high public influence and money are regarded as the most powerful people which is contrary to my chauvinistic belief.
Of cause I have no hard feelings toward this people with great repute in the society, after all they have all the legal grounds to enjoy their status as long as they acquired all this in the right way.
The point that am trying drive across is this, can't we give credit to the right people?
This credit belongs to the socially independent people. This kind of people have always acknowledged the most powerful asset within themselves. This is majorly what makes the difference between the socially independent and their counterpart; the strong minded and the wimps respectively.
The former are always best friends of their own. They adequately invest their minds on anything that will add up to their personal development. They start with the most immediate tool which is a positive self-talk as this is owned by themselves and its part of their lives. A positive self talk is like a daily dosage to this people. Unlike this people with grit, the latter depend on other people to boost their self esteem. As a result, socially independent people are always enjoying self-fulfilment which is truly liberating.
This people who are driven by an absolute sense of integrity,they stand for what they believe in. They are always true to their principles as well as themselves. This amazing people embrace integrity like they actually survived on it. By doing the right thing, they don't have to go out of their way convincing people that they are doing that which is right as their acts of integrity showcases themselves. After all they don't act to get people's approval but God's approval. They are aware that God is the ultimate judge.
They stand for what is right even when the compact majority falls for what is unethical This is because they have a mind of their own that depends on their own principles. They are not swayed in too many directions.This purpose driven people are self-confident. They voice their own thoughts appropriately without putting other people down. Contrary to what this smart people believe in, the socially dependent ones degrade others so  that they can get a chance to boost their weak  self esteems. The  socially independent  believe in themselves and their thoughts because their thoughts is actually what makes them to be who they are.''As a man thinks, so is he."
They are happy to have their thoughts and feelings towards themselves. Neither do they  invest their energy on negative comments from people nor compare themselves to others. They know who they are.
Lastly, this people bank on  God. They are aware that the best investment  of all time is the one that is done on God. With banking on God  they are assured  of no bankruptcy. God is not a respecter of persons. He welcomes all irrespective of their state.
Naturally, this individuals stand out among people because of how they carry themselves around, talk and relate with people and circumstances in their society.
Courtesy of their character, they are the epitome of what I call, powerful people.

                                              

THE TRUTH THAT LIES IN THE HIGHEST PERCEPTION

The world today has become so competitive. People are busy running errands of different aspects trying to fulfil their quest of succeeding.
Courtesy of the worlds perception of success, everyone is being led by its dogma that it's success is utterly essential. As a result, the world's compact majority has not been able to attain the highest perception of what is true success.
In retrospect, the world's criterion of its success is utterly different to the criterion of true success. The worlds yardsticks to its own success include; intellectualism, wealth, power, the x-factor, i mean, the list is endless. This fact has been inculcated so much into people's minds that they have forgotten to pursue true success where the truth lies.
Paraphrasing from Romans 12:2.....we should not let our minds be controlled by the standards of this world. Let us face and embrace the highest perspective by letting our minds be transformed by God . There and then we will know what Gods perfect will for our minds which is pleasing to Him. Moreover, His will is not for us to invest our lives on the worldly treasures but the true treasures in heaven.
Like wise, His will is not for our minds to conform to the worldly average perception but embrace the truth, which lies only in Him.
After all, isn't the world in itself vanity?